What are affirmations?
“Affirmations are our mental vitamins, providing the supplementary positive thoughts we need to balance the barrage of negative events and thoughts we experience daily.” – Tia Walker
Have you ever heard about affirmations? Let’s have a quick introduction and how to use them.
Positive affirmations are nothing more than your positive self-talk and a declaration of intent. They are a powerful tool that you can use to help you develop a positive mindset and change your life from the inside out.
Affirmations aim to affect the conscious and subconscious mind. In turn, they affect your behavior, thinking patterns, habits, and environment. The words composing the affirmation, bring up related mental images into the mind, which inspire, energize, and motivate. They can work because an affirmation has the ability to program your mind into believing the stated concept.
Here are eight tips to help you create and use affirmations so you can get what you want in life
8 Steps for writing your Affirmations
There are no hard and fast rules about timing or frequency when it comes to practicing affirmations. Affirmations describe a goal in its already completed state. Writing an affirmation down and repeating it three to five times a day helps to reprogram the unconscious mind. It helps to replace your “I can’t” with “I can,” and your fears and doubts with confidence and certainty.
Tip #1 Start with “I” or “My”
Using this format puts you, the person talking, in charge of what is being said and it helps hold you accountable for following through.
Tip #2 Use The Present Tense
For your affirmation to be effective, you have to write it in the present tense, as if it is already happening to you. Writing in the present tense helps your subconscious to believe that the statement is true.
Tip #3 State It Positive
Our subconscious minds can’t differentiate between a positive and negative affirmation and will take on either one. If you say to yourself, “I am not going to fail this test,” it will only here, “going to fail this test.” To keep your affirmations positive, you should instead say, “I am passing this test.”
Tip #4 Affirm What You Want, Not What You Don’t Want
If you struggle with negative self-talk, take the time to write down the persistent thoughts and beliefs that are bothering you. Then write an affirmation that is the opposite of that belief. For example, if you always think that you aren’t a good mother and everything you do turns out into a mess, turn it around and write an affirmation like, “I am a loving mother. What I do is enough.”
Tip #5 Make It Specific
The more detail you can include in your positive affirmations the more real it will become, and the more believable it is. Just like when you are setting your goals, you need to inform your Reticular Activating System what it is you want to achieve. You need to aim to be as specific as possible. When you can be specific with your affirmations, they can provide you with the motivation and opportunity to get everything you desire.
Tip #6 Include An Emotion Or Feeling Word
Many people don’t see results from their daily affirmations because they are merely doing it for the sake of doing it. They aren’t associating any emotions or feelings with their affirmations. If you want your affirmations to work for you, then you have to include positive feeling words in your affirmations. You have to want this change to happen, so the statements that you choose to repeat should be something that is meaningful to you.
Tip #7 Belief That It Will Happen
Most people will do their affirmations, but they don’t believe that they are going to get what they desire. If you don’t believe in something, you will never put in the effort required to obtain it. You will never take action. Your beliefs define your action, and when you believe that you are going to achieve it, you will do whatever it takes to get it.
Tip #8 Make Sure They’re Credible and Achievable
Your affirmation must be based on a realistic assessment of the facts. You need to keep the feasible and realistic because affirmations aren’t magic spells. If you can’t believe that you will achieve what you are stating, then it is highly unlikely that it will make an impact on your life.
8 Affirmations for parents
Now that you know the meaning of affirmations, it is time to begin working with them. Here are some ideas.
- I am confident and growing in my parenting role
- Comparisons do not serve me; I notice when I compare myself to other parents and I quickly let them go
- I take the time I need to care for my own needs; doing this supports me in being a better parent
- I find answers when something is out of balance
- I am a positive role model to my children on how to take care of my body
- I know how to support my children’s true natures by giving them jobs they can accomplish easily
- I am blessed with patience and understanding before I lose control
- I pause and listen to understand.
Affirmations are an incredibly powerful tool that you can use to help you manifest all your desires. Keep these eight tips in mind when you are using your statements to make them more effective.